Why Community?

Her little legs barely reached over the old carpet that had been rolled up and was sitting on the side of the street. Nonetheless, it was the perfect vantage point to observe the loading of the truck and so she sat and she watched. Her family was moving from their small town home to a home just outside of the big city.

She knew these things were happening, but was too little to truly understand them. It would be in her new home that she would begin to learn some important lessons about community.

The new home brought endless opportunities for exploration. The little girl started preschool, learned how to pedal her tricycle without falling off and welcomed a little brown puppy with eagerness and delight. She took great pride in growing the biggest watermelon in her family’s garden and she learned that the wild flowers that grew on the side of the hill made a nice mid-afternoon snack.

These opportunities were wonderful, but the lessons that would affect her for the rest of her life happened inside the house on the hill. During the cold winter months, the upstairs playroom became magical. Every bit of free time would find the little girl and her two sisters creating magnificent worlds, dressing up in their mother’s discarded clothes, learning to play in a way that would captivate them and would result in early morning play dates for years to come.

The three girls became the best of friends. The beloved school they attended was on the other side of town- along with all of their classmates. The street they lived on was inhabited by older neighbors who didn’t seem to have any grandchildren. The church just down the hill where their daddy was the pastor was also lacking in the children’s area. The pastor’s kids were the only ones in Sunday school most weeks.

Friendship between the sisters was inevitable. The circumstances in which the three girls found themselves forced them to play with one another- or not have any friends. They learned to appreciate each other- regardless of age difference and varying temperaments. They learned to make the most of every opportunity- discovering that contentment could be found if it was sought.

My sisters taught me that community is worth pursuing. Loving those around you is worth the effort.

Through them, I learned that community is not always easy. We are all different and sometimes those differences will result in frustration and fighting and disappointment. But when you are committed to community, you will learn to celebrate differences rather than run from them.

They taught me not to wait until the perfect friend or the perfect church or the perfect situation comes along, but to find contentment in and make the most of every situation God brings my way. Rather than waiting for others to offer community, I have learned to seek it.

So, why community? Because life is richer and fuller and deeper when we pursue others, when we seek to be family to those who God brings our way and when we realize that life is not meant to be lived alone.

A linky focused on craft and community, learning to write as we share our writing.

One of my favorite parts of blogging is the community of writers I have been privileged to meet and share life with. A new community is growing at Kirsten Oliphant’s blog with her Not So Small Stories link up. I appreciate the generosity of writers as we read each other’s stories, encouraging and challenging one another along the way.

How have you been blessed by community? Do you find it difficult to pursue community?

 

9 Comments

  1. Sarah
    February 18, 2014

    This is so well-written. At first I was thinking: “Is it about Lindsey?” Then I realised as it went on that it must be about you and your sisters.

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    • Becky Daye
      February 18, 2014

      Thanks so much, Sarah! I thought I would change it up a bit! 🙂

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  2. Anita Ojeda
    February 19, 2014

    Community is hard for me, even though I’ve benefitted greatly from many different communities throughout my lifetime. Your words “Rather than waiting for others to offer community, I have learned to seek it” are a much-needed kick in the pants that it’s my job to create community where God plants me, not to wait for a transplant ;).

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    • Becky Daye
      February 19, 2014

      Ya know, I think that is one of the most difficult lessons to learn. It is so easy to see others who seem to have no difficulty fitting into whatever community they are in and to think that there must be something wrong with us. But I have learned not to wait for others to invite me in, but to seek it out. It is the only way for community to happen! And the blessing of this pursuit is certainly worth it.
      That being said, I think you do a great job at encouraging online community! Thankful to be in community with you, Anita!

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  3. Courtney Lott
    February 19, 2014

    “They learned to appreciate each other- regardless of age difference and varying temperaments.” I love this! Thank you for sharing. A wonderful lesson from family.

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    • Becky Daye
      February 19, 2014

      Thanks for commenting, Courtney! So important to learn from others, isn’t it?

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  4. Kirsten Oliphant
    February 19, 2014

    I never had a sister and always looked in on girls with sisters, wondering how that would be. I loved the details and the memories that made this post so real! Makes me kind of nostalgic for something I didn’t have. Maybe this next baby will be a girl and Cooper can have a chance to find her own sister community? 🙂

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    • Becky Daye
      February 19, 2014

      My sisters are certainly a blessing- no doubt! But I have been amazed at the depth of relationship I have found with sisters in Christ as well!! You ARE a sister to so many, Kirsten!
      Can’t wait to hear the gender! Boy or girl, this little one will be a blessing for sure!

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  5. roxy
    February 21, 2014

    ahhhh sisterly love is the best. you’ve made me miss mine. 🙂

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