Author Archives: Becky Daye

Do You Live in a Grace-Filled or Shame Based Environment?

“Shame on you!” The words ricocheted through her heart, the tears falling fast. She had heard these words spoken many times in her childhood, but was unprepared to hear them again as a grown woman. But maturity had taught her a few things and this time, she didn’t hear the words in the same way. As she prayed about her […]

Letting Go of Holiday Expectations

It’s the most wonderful time of the year! At least, that’s what the songs tell us, but maybe for you, it’s not. Maybe it’s a time when you are reminded of all of your inadequacies as you scroll through stunning photos on Instagram. Maybe¬† your heart is breaking in two as the grief over losing a loved one threatens to […]

Reciprocity in Relationships and Lopsided Ministry

The best relationships are a bit like a see-saw on a playground. They are reciprocal; returning love for kindness shown, empathizing in times of trouble, and carrying each other’s burdens. At times, one friend might be stronger than the other and that strength will be shared in order to help their friend. But this will often flip-flop and the weaker […]

Miscarriage and Ministry

One of my most difficult days in ministry was when my husband preached soon after I miscarried our first baby. He was a youth pastor at the time and we had only been married for three years. At that point in our lives, he didn’t preach very often, but God had already preordained that time and that day. And so, […]

Work Hard

We had a work day at church today, and as we arrived there were many cars in the parking lot. It made me smile. Several years ago, while we were serving in a different ministry, a church work day was planned by the leadership. As the day approached, my husband found out that the leaders in charge of the day […]