Letter Writing~ Way 16

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Now we ask you, brothers and sisters, to acknowledge those who work hard among you, who care for you in the Lord and who admonish you. Hold them in the highest regard in love because of their work.

1 Thessalonians 5:12,13

Dear Pastor,

When I came to church on Sunday, I was greeted by a smiling face. I felt welcome as soon as I stepped in the door. My hands were full and I am sure I looked slightly overwhelmed. What a blessing it was to have so many rush to my aid and to genuinely seek to help me!

You weren’t there.

I took my kids to their Sunday school classes (which were easy to find, because there were signs and volunteers who directed me to the right place) and then I found a spot around a table in Bible study.

I didn’t know if you would be there or not.

I felt welcomed right away in the discussion around the tables. People seemed to really care that I was there. And then the class began. I wondered if you were the teacher, but soon discovered that you were not. The teacher asked you a question specifically and your response surprised me. I noticed that you went immediately to Scripture, but you didn’t try to dominate the conversation. Rather you simply supported the teacher.

It was a breath of fresh air.

It was obvious that you enjoyed being in the class, but surprising to me that you didn’t feel the need to take over. You left before the class ended, so I didn’t get to shake your hand. But it didn’t really matter. There were so many who came to talk to me that I’m not sure I would have had time to meet you anyway!

I felt like I had been a part of the group forever.

I gathered my children and headed to the sanctuary. Again, my family was greeted with smiles and we were directed to seats after my children’s hands had been filled with coloring pages and crayons. It seemed like people not only cared about me, but were equally interested in my children.

This is important to me.

The service surprised me. There was a depth that I have not been accustomed to. The worship leaders were not polished and to be honest, this was a relief. It was obvious that their sole purpose was to bring honor to God. They were not trying to point to themselves.

It was refreshing.

And then you preached and again, I could sense God’s presence in our midst. I especially appreciated how you said It’s all about God, not about me.


After the service, you greeted our family. I hope you can forgive me for not talking longer. You see, the family sitting next to us had struck up a conversation and we had so much in common! We were in the middle of planning to have dinner together the next weekend.

I was distracted, but in a good way.

As I left on that morning, I realized something. The church was not about you, yet your influence was felt in every interaction. I have been in churches all my life and so I know the impact a pastor can have. By truly seeking to bring glory to God, the church has followed your lead. Every interaction, every conversation, every discussion pointed to Jesus.

So, thank you, pastor. Thank you for setting an example. Worshiping with your church family was truly about God and that is where I want to be.


Your Newest Member

This kind of feedback is invaluable to a pastor! Whether good or bad, letters are a way of going beyond the limited interactions that occur on a Sunday morning. If you notice something that your pastor is doing well- especially if it seemingly has nothing to do with him- let him know.



Way 16: Write letters to your pastor.

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