All You Need is Love (but it might not be the kind you think)
When you’re afraid of waves
crashing in on you,
or of days with ever setting suns,
My love will not be enough.
When you feel your feet slipping
down into the deep and you’re looking
for something to stand on,
My love will never be enough.
But when in those times you need
an ear to listen or a hand to hold,
When you need a nudge
or simply someone to hold you,
When you are determined to rely on God
and not give up,
Then my love will be enough.
I love you and I want to love you more,
By God’s grace, I will…
To my darling little ones,
Your Daddy sent me this poem before he proposed to me and asked me to share the rest of my life with him. At the time, it was exactly what I needed to hear.
I already loved Jesus, but I hadn’t yet learned the importance of finding my complete hope and security in Him. Your Daddy was wise enough to know this. He knew that if I was looking anywhere other than to God to meet my deepest needs, than life would be a rough journey and my expectations of my husband would be unfair.
I pray that you learn this lesson, sweet ones. The idea that anyone else will “complete” you is a myth. It is a lie that has led many to great disappointment, disillusionment and broken relationships. No one person will ever be enough to fulfill your deepest longings.
It is only when we find our complete satisfaction in Christ that we are able to love others fully and be loved in return.
Your Daddy and I have been married for nearly 17 years now. There are days when he disappointments me and probably more when I disappoint him. But the beauty of a relationship that is focused on Christ and not on each other is that we know that we don’t have to be perfect. We have the freedom to make mistakes, because we have learned the beauty of grace. We know that the other one will not walk away when we mess up. Rather, they will forgive, because they understand how freely they have been forgiven in Christ.
Lindsay~ this is why I have you memorizing 2 Timothy 2:1. “You then, my daughter, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus.” I so long for you to grasp this truth, that we have been given complete grace, total forgiveness and lavished love in Christ. When friends misunderstand you or are critical of you, I pray that you will rely on God, that He will be your strength.
Ethan~ do you know that my heart soared with joy when you talked to me the other night about your doubts? I was so grateful that you not only felt comfortable, but confident to come and talk to me about how you were feeling. And I love that you have prayed scripture every night since- “I believe; help my unbelief”. ~Mark 9:24 God is faithful in answering these kinds of prayers and I can’t wait to see what he will do in your life.
Gibson~ the title of this post is owed to you. Do you remember how we would sing this song and you would exuberantly sing LOVE at all the appropriate places? You are too cool for this now, but there are times when I still sing it and you respond and I have to tell you that it is forever and always one of my favorite things. I know you struggle with anger, but love is truly all that you need. It is why I always ask you to pray when you are angry. Because God is love and He is the only one who can change our hearts. He is the only one who can take this anger from you and turn it into a beautiful, holy love.
And my sweet, Ainsley girl~ Last week, you had surgery to remove a cyst on your neck. Before Daddy dressed all in blue and took you from my arms, you wrapped your arms around me and I kissed your sweet cheek. It was gut wrenching. As your mama, I wanted to protect you from all pain, but it was a precious relief to know that our Heavenly Father would be holding you close and that I could entrust you to him. Your Daddy came back to me in tears. We love you darling, but we also know that we can’t fix all of your hurts and especially not any of your physical struggles. BUT GOD CAN! And that is why we have learned to rely on Him. We are so grateful that you came back to us, perfectly happy and healthy, but we have learned to have faith in God that is not based on circumstances or situations, but on a hope that endures. These are big concepts and beyond your grasp right now, but suffice it to say, we pray that our faith in God will be an example for you and that you will learn to trust him with all your heart.
Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.
~Antoine de Saint Exupery
We celebrate Valentine’s Day on Saturday and I have to tell you that you will hear the opposite message. You will see friends trying to garner the attention of others. You might be disappointed, because you didn’t receive any attention yourself. And you might try to feel better about yourself by indulging in chocolate and twinkies. But in our home, we do not celebrate a love that is manipulated or elusive. We celebrate a lavished love, a faithful love, an unending, always and forever love, an unconditional love.
In this kind of love, there is no room for disappointment. And it is this love that allows us to love others freely.
And so, I pray that you would know this love, on Valentine’s Day and always.
See what great love the Father has lavished on us that we should be called children of God!
~1 John 3:1
This is the love you need. And when you have it, you will understand that truly all you need is love.