What I Want My Boys to Know~ Treat Women With Respect
Sweet boys of mine,
Do you have any idea how much I love the two of you? You are both incredibly sweet. Gibson- I love how you pick flowers for me. The other day, you were playing outside and you came inside just to tell me that you love me. And my heart melted. Ethan- every night, you give me a kiss and tell me that you love me. Tonight, you winked at me and I was reminded that you are growing up so fast!
But in the midst of all of this sweetness, there are times when you are disrespectful. You might not obey right away. Or you get grumpy when you don’t get to do what you want to do. You argue with me or complain or throw a fit.
And as your mama, I know that this is all a part of growing up and maturing (I STILL get grumpy and argue or complain- I get it!). But I also know that respect for women is not always valued in our society. And so I will work hard to emphasize the importance of treating all women with respect.
You have some great examples before you! The first is Jesus himself who valued women so highly. It always surprises me when Christian men speak in a derogatory way about women. Because Jesus did not do this and He is the one that we are to follow. And so boys, I pray that you would follow the example of Jesus!
I also pray that you will follow the examples of your Papa and your Grandfather. They are men who in a few short weeks will celebrate anniversaries to their brides of over 40 years. You will find out how truly remarkable this is as you get older. And although they would probably tell you that they didn’t always get it right, your Nana and your Grandma would both tell you that they are blessed women!
And then there is your Daddy…
I pray, my boys, that you will follow his example. That you will value the gifts that women have and celebrate them.
That you would take the time to listen to what they have to say. That you wouldn’t jump in with a solution to all of their problems, but would simply be willing to hear them.
Respecting women means that you take the time to get to know them. It means that you laugh with them, cry with them, support them. It means that you walk by their side and treat them as equals.
This is what God intended all along- when He first created woman, He said this~ “It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a suitable helper for him.” (Genesis 2:18).
You are not meant to walk through life alone. And so I pray that you will learn this lesson of respect. Your lives will be richer and fuller and deeper as a result.
But I don’t want you to just treat your wife with respect- I want you to treat all women with respect. Which is why I challenge your bad attitudes. It is why we pray together that Jesus would change your hearts. Because I realize that this starts with how you treat me, your mommy. And it starts with how you treat your sister and your friends.
Respecting others is not a suggestion or a good idea. It is God’s command to His children. “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.” And “Love your neighbor as yourself.” (Matthew 22:37 and 39).
I have a feeling that you will be confused about why I spent so much time emphasizing this! Because your Daddy does a great job and I don’t think that you can imagine NOT treating women with respect. I love it when he says things like don’t treat the woman I love like that or she’s my wife and you do not speak in that way to her! This is a gift, my boys! You are growing up with the opportunity to see how you should treat a woman.
And I pray that there is another mama out there who is teaching her boy the same things! Because that is the type of husband that I want for your sister. I also pray that there are two moms who are telling their little girls that they are princesses! The great thing about respecting a woman is that she will love and respect you in return. It’s all a part of God’s beautiful plan!
So, keep being sweet, boys o’ mine! And know that I will continue to pray for you- now and always.
I love you. Very much!